I was listening to a few young friends
talking recently about their goals and aspirations; these included being a pop singer, becoming a star a superstar, even – winning the X factor and so on. Becoming famous in one guise or another seemed the general consensus.
I asked what they were doing to achieve their goals and aspirations, and suddenly they went quite, one or two even looked puzzled. I followed up my question further, what training are you doing to get to where you want to go?
I began to think I was using the wrong words, or I had slipped into speaking another language. Then it became clear. They had focussed so much on what they were going to do when they got to be super stars that they had not worked out what steps to take to get there!
I pointed out that if they listened to some of the stories contestants on their favourite prime time TV show recited, many of them had worked long and hard to try to perfect their talents (I am glad to see there are many less stories of near death, illness and premature bereavement and loss on the recent show), and that their success was a result of many years of hard work, which they would most likely have to do if they were to become successful.
I realised I had spoilt their discussion, and decided to make my excuses and leave.
But it got me thinking,
many of us dream about achieving our goals, even though many of us are less star-struck and simply want to achieve the best we can for ourselves and our families. Many of us recognise that the word achievement is usually accompanied by the words: planning, determination, perseverance and hard work.
Every day of my working life I see people who have made the decision to achieve something. Whether it be self development, better relationships, work matters or something else. They have the determination, many have the perseverance and many know that hard work will be needed.
But the fact they realise there are many steps to take before success is usually achieved is half of the battle, and makes the eventual achievement much more rewarding. My young friends have yet to recognise this, but I think my simple question may have started the thought process, and perhaps one day they will recognise I didn’t derail their dreams, but stoked the fire of realisation and determination.
Talking about achievement,
I am going to indulge myself for a few sentences. Many readers will know I have a history in working with the common digestive condition, irritable bowel syndrome or IBS as it is commonly known. A study from a well known university in the USA reported that IBS sufferers would be prepared to take 15 years off their life to be free of IBS! It also cited the importance of recognising the emotional aspects of IBS not just the physical.
I got a sense of achievement reading this, because my IBS Audio Program 100 has been treating both the emotional and the physical symptoms of IBS since 1998, hence its success, due to planning, structure, commitment, perseverance and knowing my subject. And through it, I have received more than my young friends dreamed … Four yeses!
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