I was listening to a few young friends
talking recently about their goals and aspirations which included being a pop singer, becoming a star, becoming a superstar, winning the X factor. Becoming famous in one guise or another seemed the general consensus.
I asked what they were doing to achieve their goals and aspirations, and suddenly they went quiet, one or two even looked puzzled. I followed up my question further, what training are you doing to get to where you want to go?
Worryingly the silence was deafening. I began to think I was using the wrong words, or I had slipped into speaking another language. Then it became clear. They had focused so much on what they were going to do when they got to be superstars that they had not worked out what steps to take to get there!
I pointed out that if they listened to some of the stories contestants on their favourite prime time TV show recited, many of them had worked long and hard to try to perfect their talents, and that their success was a result of many years of hard work, which they would most likely have to do if they were to be successful.
I then realised I had spoilt their discussion, and decided to make my excuses and leave.
But it got me thinking, many of us dream about achieving our goals, many of us though are less star struck and simply want to achieve the best we can for ourselves and our families. Many of us recognise that the word achievement is usually accompanied by the words; planning, determination, perseverance and hard work.
Every day of my working life
I see people who have made the decision to achieve something, whether it is self development, better relationships, work matters or something else. They have the determination, and many have the perseverance and many know that hard work will be needed.
They also realise there are many steps to take before success is achieved. They also know that the hard work that they have put in makes the eventual achievement much more rewarding.
My young friends have yet to recognise this, but I think my simple question may have started the thought process, and perhaps one day they will recognise I didn’t derail their dreams, but stoked the fire of realisation and determination.
At some stage they will realise that stardom only comes before work in the dictionary!