I would like to ask you a question and
… would request you think about the answer. The question is this, “Who is the most important person in your life at the moment”? Think about it, and when you have thought about it many readers might reply: wife, husband, girlfriend, boyfriend, children, parents, sons, daughters, niece, nephews, and perhaps close friends for some it might be the cat, dog or budgie. But I wonder how many readers would say themselves?
Many of you who took the time would have identified perhaps six or ten people (or pets) who you would have thought about before yourself. And yet if you stop to think about it, why did you not include yourself? Or if you did, why were you lower down the order of importance?
Think of it this way: if you identified six people or ten people when you answered this simple question, what you have really identified are six or ten people, who would have a hole ripped out of their lives if you were not part of their lives. Therefore it is important to remember we are important. We may have people depending on us; but equally we have people to support, work to do, goals to achieve, and if we don’t look after ourselves how can we look after others, how can we continue supporting and providing for them, financially, emotionallyy and physically. The simple answer is we can’t.
So this is not about being selfish, for many it is more like self preservation! It isn’t about being intransigent it is simply about caring for yourself and in this way you are more able to meet your commitments to others, and continue to be an important part of their lives.
It is more important than ever that we learn how to cope with internal and external demands. External demands are quite easily identified; open any newspaper and we read about high prices, job cuts, benefit cuts, poorer services, society’s downfalls and much more.
Yet these serve to compound the internal demands, the worries, and the anxieties and fears which many experience. Work overload, relationship difficulties, disharmony in the workplace, perhaps being out of work or being too ill to work. Nobody ever asks for anything tomorrow. These days’ things always seem to be needed now, or yesterday. If we don’t get enough rest and self nurturing we can make matters a whole lot worse, and that is in nobody’s interest. So what can you do? You can share your worries and concerns, discuss health issues, you can learn to relax.
The reality is many of the situations mentioned may not be easy to change, but we can see them through different eyes! Some readers will know that each thought creates a physical response, and that by improving your thoughts, sharing problems, being open to new options of choice and considerations you can see situations in a new way, put things in perspective, bring the resources of your mind and body together to achieve your goals. Visit my website www.healthyaudio.com for information about our well-being programs. Remember the question I asked, and now consider your reply, and notice the difference!